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I can see time weighing heavily upon my mother. At 84, she is physically slowed so that the
neighborhood strolls have become laborious for her. She forgets things much more easily,
especially stuff that I just said or that just happened. She will be staying with me for the next
month and it pains me at times to see her in her current state. Each day with her is a gift and if her recent
memory is at times flickering, her memories of her distant past remain rock
solid. She has been telling me stories
and I want to hold onto them. And so I
write, telling stories from her perspective.
The Fortune Teller
I was only seven years old when my mother invited the
fortuneteller to enter and read the future of Elder Brother and myself. The fortuneteller announced his presence by
rhythmically banging on his gong as he strolled down the streets of our village
in Anhui. My mother believed in the
power of reading the future, as did many of her village peers. I heard my mother identify him as Old
Professor and he first examined the hand of Elder Brother, who was 13 at the
time. My mother learned that her eldest
son would not have to work the land on the farm and would instead become highly
educated. He would teach.
As the years progressed, my Elder brother revealed a love of
literature and books. He did receive a
higher level of education than any of the other siblings or family members and
went on to teach literature and art.
As for myself, I was informed that I would not want for
money in my adult years. I would be
separated from my mother by vast distances and would marry in a foreign
land. My mother could not believe this,
ridiculing the fortuneteller and telling him that I would always be with her.
When I was 17 I left Anhui and journeyed to Shanghai in
search of work. A family friend was able
to connect me with a family in need of childcare, a live-in nanny. This would be only a temporary position as
the child’s father was an ambassador who would be travelling to America in 2
months. I took the job and did well enough that I was invited to join them and relocate to America. I would, at the age of 18, wind up in NYC and
3 years later married a kind, quiet man who’s only flaws were his love
for tobacco and mahjong. I had always
expected that I would return to China after 3 years but the Communists warred on
the Nationalists, preventing me from ever returning and seeing my mother again. All of that however, is another story.
This is wonderful Irving. I wish I had done such a thing with my parents. I have recently gone thru a box of pictures, etc that I have not touched since my parents died in 1998 and 1999. I found a "journal" of sorts of my Dad's along with a small "memory" book that I had given him to fill out (and he did). It's wonderful to read and learn these things that I did not know my Dad felt or experienced. I loved reading this story you posted......I would love to see more. THank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! My mother has been just randomly telling me all sorts of fascinating stories and I am going to capture as many as I can.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful idea! Thank you for sharing the gift of your mothers stories.
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